"...when a woman’s [attraction] has been turned off, it’s almost impossible to turn back on. Thus, while it is possible to rebuild a woman’s attraction after lowering it as mentioned above, it’s typically best to discontinue pursuing them further, because any new behavior employed to increase her attraction will never entirely be trusted due to it being incongruent with what she was initially subjected to.
while I (as a woman) don't agree with everything you wrote, I do agree with a lot!
My base understanding of people is built on religious understanding, not the hypothesis of evolution; so I think (& have observed and experienced) people can change their ways (though we usually DON'T until we have to, & sometimes we need help).
One aspect I can speak to, as a woman with 41 years of marriage under my belt, is yes women can get hurt/neglected to the point of being "switched 'off' ", but it is also possible to rekindle the flame. My husband and I have had to do this again few times in our marriage, 90% of the time it's because he gets too busy with work and other things & isn't there for me. (Yeah I do have a support network besides him, but there's nothing like a husband.) Yes it takes work, and yes it gets harder for the woman to really trust him with each repetition of the process.
The thing many people don't realize, is: emotions can be chosen.
A man's natural bent is to take charge, run things, while an woman's natural bent is to nurture and choose to work along with others. Of course each has the capacity to do the other, but our native inclinations is that way.
[side note: Another writer, who also believes in evolution, said he felt this was because small humans take so long to be ready for life on their own, & people used to live short lives, so the females had to be more flexible than the males about who they were with at the moment.]
Main takeaway for today: connection between humans is alive and must be maintained.
Very interesting piece you wrote and I admire your willingness to work on yourself!
The article "You Can 'Win' a Girl Back After She's Left You, But It's Usually Never Worth The Effort" offers a candid perspective on the challenges and potential drawbacks of attempting to rekindle a past relationship. It encourages readers to reflect on the reasons behind the breakup and consider whether pursuing reconciliation aligns with their personal growth and well-being.
Put in other words, the effort necessary to become attractive to that woman is what can make you attractive to more women. But you are going to miss it because you are hyperfocused in one girl while ignoring the other interested ones.
Read this again, its 100% accurate:
"...when a woman’s [attraction] has been turned off, it’s almost impossible to turn back on. Thus, while it is possible to rebuild a woman’s attraction after lowering it as mentioned above, it’s typically best to discontinue pursuing them further, because any new behavior employed to increase her attraction will never entirely be trusted due to it being incongruent with what she was initially subjected to.
while I (as a woman) don't agree with everything you wrote, I do agree with a lot!
My base understanding of people is built on religious understanding, not the hypothesis of evolution; so I think (& have observed and experienced) people can change their ways (though we usually DON'T until we have to, & sometimes we need help).
One aspect I can speak to, as a woman with 41 years of marriage under my belt, is yes women can get hurt/neglected to the point of being "switched 'off' ", but it is also possible to rekindle the flame. My husband and I have had to do this again few times in our marriage, 90% of the time it's because he gets too busy with work and other things & isn't there for me. (Yeah I do have a support network besides him, but there's nothing like a husband.) Yes it takes work, and yes it gets harder for the woman to really trust him with each repetition of the process.
The thing many people don't realize, is: emotions can be chosen.
A man's natural bent is to take charge, run things, while an woman's natural bent is to nurture and choose to work along with others. Of course each has the capacity to do the other, but our native inclinations is that way.
[side note: Another writer, who also believes in evolution, said he felt this was because small humans take so long to be ready for life on their own, & people used to live short lives, so the females had to be more flexible than the males about who they were with at the moment.]
Main takeaway for today: connection between humans is alive and must be maintained.
Very interesting piece you wrote and I admire your willingness to work on yourself!
Of course. Congratulations on 41 years of marriage -- that is impressive.
Rollo regurgitated, then
The article "You Can 'Win' a Girl Back After She's Left You, But It's Usually Never Worth The Effort" offers a candid perspective on the challenges and potential drawbacks of attempting to rekindle a past relationship. It encourages readers to reflect on the reasons behind the breakup and consider whether pursuing reconciliation aligns with their personal growth and well-being.
I'm going to risk my two cents here:
Put in other words, the effort necessary to become attractive to that woman is what can make you attractive to more women. But you are going to miss it because you are hyperfocused in one girl while ignoring the other interested ones.