The Juice Is Never Worth The Squeeze
Stop and smell the smoke
I’ve been providing men with dating advice consistently since November 2023 and I'm beginning to dislike it. This isn’t because I no longer enjoy guiding clueless men, nor because the majority of them blatantly disregard my advice; but, rather, because of its predictability.
You see, the vast majority of guys seeking my counsel do so in an attempt to avoid losing the woman they are presently dating (or talking to) after observing that their interest in them has declined, oftentimes for behaving in such a way that would predictably lower their attraction.
Depending on the offense that caused the woman’s attraction to wane, I either provide men with information regarding how to recover, or I inform them that doing so is virtually impossible, and that they should instead attempt to understand where they went wrong, and apply their newfound knowledge with women they date in the future to avoid making the same mistake(s). The latter suggestion is often met with much contention, and it is my conjecture that the reasons for this are twofold: Firstly, men possess so few dating options that the thought of missing out on one who finally shows them the slightest amount of interest is unfathomable. Secondly, men tend to idealize the women they are seeing, and don’t believe that they are capable of dating another one who is of equal or higher quality.
Unfortunately, men fail to realize that a woman’s attraction for them works like a light switch. Meaning, they either like you or they don’t – there’s no such thing as mixed feelings. Furthermore, and unlike normal light switches, when a woman’s has been turned off, it’s almost impossible to turn back on. Thus, while it is possible to rebuild a woman’s attraction after lowering it as mentioned above, it’s typically best to discontinue pursuing them further, because any new behavior employed to increase her attraction will never entirely be trusted due to it being incongruent with what she was initially subjected to.