How To Stop Being Invisible to Women
It's not as difficult as you think
Women No Longer Need Men
The dating landscape in 2024 has changed. While this may be obvious to many of you reading this, most people don’t adequately understand why or how.
Historically, women have been forced to enter relationships with men almost solely based on their ability to protect and provide for them.
In our ancestors’ evolutionary past, women were dependent on men for survival and resources because they were incapable of hunting large mammals and defending their tribe from raiders during invasions. Fast forward to the 19th century (and part of the 20th), women depended on their husbands to provide for them financially because they couldn’t work in certain industries.
Now, in the 21st century, where women make the same amount of money as men for the same job, they no longer need a man to help them survive – but they do want one. And the one they want is exciting, unpredictable, evocative, mysterious, indifferent, and above all, physically attractive.
Unfortunately, most men don’t possess these attributes. Even if they did, they wouldn’t be able to showcase them to potential suitors because most men are invisible to women.
80% of Women Only Find 20% of Men Attractive
According to research conducted by Ghent University, 80% of women only find 20% of men attractive on dating apps.
This doesn’t mean that 80% of women only date or have sex with 20% of men – that’s ridiculous and clearly refutable if you take one step outside. It means that women only deem 20% of men as physically attractive enough to want to be with.
According to the Oxford Dictionary,
Attractive: having beneficial qualities or features that induce someone to accept what is being offered.
Arouse: excite (someone) sexually.
The features that make a man attractive are entirely different from those that make him sexually arousing.
A guy with a well-paying, stable job who’s good with kids, funny, owns a house, can repair most things that break, has decent savings and retirement accounts, but holds excess body fat with little to no muscle mass is attractive to some women, but not necessarily sexually arousing.
Moreover, even if a guy is attractive on paper, he won’t necessarily be noticed if the woman doesn’t sustain a relatively moderate to high level of attraction for him. Women are inundated with romantic options via real life, dating apps, and social media, so unless they find you particularly attractive (or you are their physical type) it’s unlikely that they’ll notice you.
This doesn’t mean that women wouldn’t have sex or date guys like this, especially considering most men are built like the one aforementioned, but that women won’t be sexually aroused by them like they would by a guy who is jacked, lean, and well-groomed.
Women can’t control what sexually arouses them because it’s a feeling. Whenever they see a well-groomed man with muscles, abs, and a handsome face, they can’t help but instinctively smile and gawk because they’re hardwired to desire healthy genes for their children.
As such, if you’re currently invisible to women, the simplest way to be noticed is by improving your physical appearance and a few other external attributes.
Be Friends With Women
Women like men that other women like. There are multiple reasons for this, but, without getting into too many details, it’s because it suggests that a) you’re a safe guy to be around, and b) That there’s something about you worth liking.
While it’s entirely possible (but usually very unlikely) that neither of the aforementioned thoughts is true, women implicitly trust the judgment of other women. So, if they see you with another woman, they will automatically assume you aren't a creep because women don’t intentionally hang out with weirdos.
Moreover, have you ever seen a gorgeous woman out with a guy who wasn’t nearly as attractive? One of the first thoughts that pops up in people's minds when this happens is some variant of “how did he pull her?”
This is because we subconsciously recognize that in order for a man to attract a woman considerably more attractive than himself, he most likely has to possess some other attribute(s) that more than makes up for the deficit in looks.
Women will then become curious about you and find you more attractive because they will think that there must be something about you worth liking if you’re capable of attracting a high caliber woman.
If women currently don’t look at you twice when you’re out in public, you likely have no romantic interests to experience this phenomenon with; but luckily you don’t have to.