How to Physically Escalate with Women: A Player's Guide
She wants you to be bold
Women desire physical intimacy with men. This may seem obvious to many, but it’s something I want the less experienced prospective players to internalize. Now, with that being said, they obviously aren’t as eager to hookup like men are (due to possessing testosterone levels 12- 17 times lower than the average man’s), but nonetheless, they want men to be bold and make a move. Unfortunately, media such as television and film, have conditioned men into believing that their first time kissing or having sex with a woman must be some grand gesture, and that the right words have to be uttered at the most opportune time, which couldn’t be further from the truth. In reality, going for a kiss isn’t a big deal, and it’s to be expected as dates presuppose physical attraction. In fact, even if your kiss is rejected, women will still respect that you had the courage to try.
While it is unlikely that a perfect moment to kiss a girl for the first time will occur like in movies, they do have to be primed. That is, kissing her has to be congruent with your prior actions and behaviors throughout the date (or interaction). This is where most guys fumble. They barely touch the woman throughout the date, and attempt to kiss her at its conclusion, because that’s what they think they’re supposed to do, not realizing that doing so is incongruent with their actions beforehand. In order for a girl to be ready to be kissed, small steps have to be taken prior for her to comply.
Kino Escalation
In game, Kino Escalation (Kino) refers to physically escalating with women through touch, up until your desired outcome (normally making out or sex). What’s unique about Kino is that the touches, at first anyways, do not indicate sexual intent. They are ostensibly harmless, and do not suggest that your objective is to sleep with her. It is seamless and natural, almost as if you are naturally a touchy person. Gradually, the touches become more intimate, and eventually kissing occurs. When performing Kino on a date, the worst thing that can be done is indirectly demonstrating that you are touching her intentionally. This lowers her perceived value of you, because it suggests that you don’t understand female nature, how to escalate, and how to properly build attraction. There’s no judgment from me, but it’s how women think. They want a guy who’s been rewarded with physical intimacy from women, and revealing that you are touching her for the sake of it suggests that’s not the case. Remember, Kino is always seamless and natural, like water flowing in a stream.
When cold approaching women during the day, I strongly advise against physical contact. While many pickup artists on YouTube will disagree with me, it’s rather creepy to have someone you don’t know, even if they are particularly attractive, touch you. Furthermore, there’s absolutely no reason to hug or hold hands with a girl you just met, and doing this isn’t necessarily going to increase her attraction towards you. So – I strongly suggest you do not attempt to touch a girl at all during a cold approach.
In spite of this, and hopefully not to sound contradictory, I will acknowledge that there is a way to implement Kino when cold approaching during the day, just not in the weird way pickup artists display. When talking to women during cold approaches, I am almost always asked my age. I tell them to take a guess (this is playful and fun behavior), and when they answer correctly, I high five them. I don’t interlock fingers, or hold on for any significant amount of time, just a quick and innocuous high five, and women love this. In fact, every girl I have done this to has become visibly excited when it happens. So, if you are going to do Kino during a cold approach – which I still advise against – it has to be something as harmless and unsuspecting as a high five. Otherwise, you run the risk of being flagged as a creep.