How To Get Dates on Dating Apps: A Player's Guide
It's not rocket science, dude.
The advent of social media and dating apps have made it apparent and irrefutable that average women do not want average men. And why would they? With a now globalized sexual marketplace, women on these apps are inundated with attention from men of various quality from around the world. There’s no need for women to settle with an average guy when instantaneous access to the highest caliber of men is available at their fingertips. Conversely, average men obtain virtually no attention from women online, and when a woman does eventually swipe right or message them, they don’t possess the skills necessary to score a date.
There’s numerous reasons as to why men are so incompetent when it comes to dating, but I primarily blame modern media (TV shows, movies, and social media influencers). The media has convinced men that comfort and rapport need to be established with women in order for them to agree to go on a date, which is blatantly false. If comfort and rapport were necessary, women wouldn’t have sex with men in bars after talking to them for ten minutes.
If a woman matches with you on a dating app, you have to always assume that she is interested in going on a date, as that is their purpose. With that being said, I do understand that many women utilize these apps for free attention and entertainment, and that's just part of the game. This isn’t a guide teaching you how to optimize your dating profile to get more matches, but rather, a methodology describing what should be done for a woman to agree to go on a date after you have matched with her.
Texting Can’t Build Attraction
I've said this before and I'll say it again: texting can not build attraction. Your opening message (opener) to a woman should be direct and playful. She knows why you are messaging her, so get to the point. Now, under no circumstances should you interpret this as your first message being the one where you ask her out. This only works if her attraction to you is incredibly high (i.e. you're her type). Remember the adage, girls just wanna have fun? It's true. You don't have to be as funny as Kevin Hart, but your opener should be playful and indicate romantic interest. The messages sent afterwards entirely depend on the woman's response, and this is where game techniques are employed. Discussing the various game techniques that can be used to seduce women is out of the scope of this article, but will potentially be discussed in future ones.
In this example, I used a direct and playful opener. She responded positively, so I rewarded good behavior by being more playful with her. She responded positively again, so I used the next message to ask her out on a date.