From Zero To Hero: A Definitive Guide To Men's Dating Part 2: Understanding Female Nature
Things your father should have told you.
Introduction
This section will consist of a collection of essays evaluating everything you need to know about female nature. Completion of this section will provide you with a fundamental understanding of why women deem certain behaviors as attractive and unattractive. Additionally, you will develop the ability to understand why a woman’s attraction to you increased or decreased in any circumstance.
If you’ve ever wondered why a woman stopped talking to you after you did something, your answers will likely be found in this section.
You’ve Been Lied To - 1.0
80% of Women only Find 20% Of Men Attractive - 2.0
Women No Longer Need Men – But They Do Want Them - 3.0
How Women Choose Men - 4.0
Men and Women Are Not Equal - 5.0
Women Do Not Want An Equal - 6.0
Women Like Guys Other Women Like - 7.0
Women Care About How Men Make Them FEEL - 8.0
You’re Good Enough - 9.0
You’re The Prize - 10.0
Women Don’t Care About You - 11.0
Less Is Always More - 12.0
Women Love Mysterious Men - 13.0
Stop Talking So Much - 14.0
She’s Not The One - 15.0
Develop An Abundance Mindset - 16.0
Date Multiple Women Concurrently - 17.0
The Delusion of The Slightly Above Average Looking Woman - 18.0
Let Women Use Their Imagination - 19.0
Just Be Yourself - 20.0
Don’t Solve Women’s Problems - 21.0
Never Try To Win A Girl Back - 22.0
Became A Man With Options - 23.0
Your Time and Attention Must Be Earned - 24.0
Be More Vulnerable - 25.0
Women Don’t Love Men Unconditionally - 26.0
A Woman’s Desire For A Man Grows When They’re Apart - 27.0
Stop Texting Women So Much - 28.0
Your Attention And TIme Must Be Earned - 29.0
Introduction
This section will consist of a collection of essays evaluating everything you need to know about female nature. Completion of this section will provide you with a fundamental understanding of why women deem certain behaviors as attractive and unattractive. Additionally, you will develop the ability to understand why a woman’s attraction to you increased or decreased in any circumstance.
If you’ve ever wondered why a woman stopped talking to you after you did something, your answers will likely be found in this section.
1.0 - You’ve Been Lied To
If you’re like most men who are unsuccessful with women, your understanding of how to attract them probably comes from TV shows, movies, and what women claim works via social media applications.
Unfortunately, almost all of the advice from these sources is utter garbage, and the reasons for this are twofold.
Firstly, the overwhelming majority of Hollywood writers are feminized men who sucked with women growing up. These guys never got women during their adolescence, and they effectively write fantasy stories which portray how they think women should respond to their actions and behaviors.
This is why there are countless TV shows and films in which the really hot girl inevitably dumps her jerk boyfriend for the nerd protagonist after coming to realize how “great” he is.
Think David Schwimmer (Ross Geller) in Friends. The guy spends most of the series in the friendzone pursuing Rachel (Jennifer Anniston) like a total simp and unrealistically ends up in a relationship with her in spite of this.
However, as most of you all have likely experienced or witnessed, these methods are more than futile; you can’t expect guys who are unsuccessful with women to accurately portray how to be successful with women. It’s illogical.
Secondly, women don’t give guys adequate dating advice for two reasons. 1) They don’t can’t always articulate why they are attracted to men, and 2) to filter out the Players from the dorks.
If you want to catch a lot of fish, ask the fisherman, not the fish.
If a woman were required to explain how the man she’s with pulled him, she’d explain what she thinks worked, which, more often than not, is not reflective of what actually worked. Oftentimes, men run some form of Game to attract women, and it was developed and refined over many years (typically during adolescence and early adulthood).
So, a man might understand that teasing and negging a woman he’s talking to in certain instances is likely to increase her attraction towards him, but women can’t articulate that. Women, first and foremost, are concerned with how they feel. This is commonly known as “The vibe.”
Moreover, even if women were capable of adequately articulating how to successfully seduce them, they would NEVER do so.
Evolutionarily, women who reproduced with men who were not as valuable as they portrayed themselves as were almost always terrible reproductive investments. These men often were incapable of taking care of the woman, their children, or assisting their tribe in any meaningful manner, which often resulted in death or exile from the group. As such, women would never dare to tell a man what to do because doing so suggests that he is not only incompetent, but that they are incapable of protecting and providing for them.
Women want guys who naturally understand how to get women, because it suggests that they have been rewarded with women in the past, which is important because it conveys preselection (more on this later), and that the man in question must possess some valuable attributes because women wouldn’t be with him otherwise.
2.0 - 80% of Women only Find 20% Of Men Attractive
The dating landscape in 2025 has changed. While this may be obvious to most of you reading this, most people don’t properly understand why or how.
Average women don’t want average men. Contrary to what women staunchly claim on social media, they want to be with the best option available to them. At a glance, this may appear obvious – who wouldn’t want to date the best person they could get?
Well, most men, actually.
You see, 80% of women only find 20% of men attractive.
This doesn’t mean that 80% of women only date or hook up with 20% of men – that’s ridiculous and clearly refutable if you take one step outside. It just means that women only deem 20% of men as physically attractive enough to want to be with.
Meanwhile, the remaining 80% of men – the men women don’t deem as attractive – have to provide value in other ways in order to become so.
For instance, when I walk shirtless downtown after my runs, women stare at me with complete awe and admiration because I’m built like a Greek statue. In fact, women often initiate conversation with me if they’re feeling particularly bold because of my body.
Most guys don’t look nearly as good as me – especially considering that 1 in 3 adults are overweight, 2 in 5 adults are obese, and 1 in 11 adults are severely obese – so I’m a part of the 20% of men that women want to hook up with.
Conversely, the men who are not in this category – those who are effectively invisible to women unless they are introduced to them via circumstance or a third party – usually have to provide value externally in order to be deemed as attractive.
Women usually require such men to have good careers, be financially stable, be kind, have a respectable social circle, and meet whatever absurd checklist requirements they would ordinarily throw out the window for men that arouse them.
3.0 - Women No Longer Need Men – But They Do Want Them
And the reason for this is simple: women can now provide for themselves.
Evolutionarily, women were dependent on men for survival and resources because they were incapable of hunting large mammals for food and defending their tribe from raiders during invasions. Fast forward to the 19th and part of the 20th century, women couldn’t work and were dependent on men to provide for them financially.
As such, women were essentially forced to choose a man almost solely based on their ability to protect and provide for them. They still attempted to obtain a relationship with the highest quality man they could, but would eventually have to settle for someone they didn’t truly desire if they couldn’t be with the man they desired.
Now, in the 21st century, women make the same amount of money as men, so they no longer need to marry them in order to survive. And, despite them not needing a man, they want one – and the one they want is the best option at their disposal.
The man that they want is attractive, exciting, able to stimulate their emotions, unpredictable, mysterious, and, above all, indifferent to whether or not the woman he’s with is in his life.
4.0 - How Women Choose Men
The features that women desire in men are those that best resulted in their survival evolutionarily.
Rollo Tomassi, author of The Rational Male, found that women, when seeking an optimal partner for a long term relationship, have a dualistic mating strategy: They want a man who can provide long term protection and provisioning, and short term reproductive benefits.
Long term protection includes the ability to physically protect the tribe from invaders and wild beasts, provision (provide resources and shelter), and exhibit emotional characteristics that suggested they were dependable, good parents.
The short term reproductive benefits desired are physical indicators of good health: clear skin, muscle mass, leanness, height, and facial symmetry. Essentially, characteristics that make men more physically attractive.
Now, everything Rollo said is absolutely correct, but there’s another component that needs to be addressed: instinctive behaviors. Here’s the thing, a guy can be physically attractive, muscular, have chiseled abs, never have to work another day in his life, and still not be attractive to women.
This is because, as Rollo has astutely pointed out in work, hypergamy is a feeling. No amount of beauty or material wealth can make a woman sincerely want to be with a man if he behaves in ways that make her feel unsafe.
We’ll evaluate what behaviors women find attractive (and why) later in the document, but for now, just understand that they want men who can protect and provide for them and their family, are healthy, have good genetics, and behave in ways that make them feel safe.
5.0 - Men and Women Are Not Equal
Contrary to what your teachers, friends, coworkers, and the media have espoused to you your entire life, men and women are not equal.
In fact, we’re very different. We have different biologies, psychologies, behavioral patterns, natures, brain structures, and above all, an unarguable discrepancy in strength.
Accordingly, men and women excel at different things. Women are innately more nurturing and social, while men are more combative and technical. Of course, this obviously doesn't mean that members of either sex can’t excel at things they ordinarily don’t, or flounder at things they usually excel at. It’s just the reality of the differences between the sexes.
Since the early 2000s, the United States government has encouraged women to pursue science, technology, engineering, and math (STEM) careers, and now, in 2024, there’s a push to get more men into health, education, administration, and literacy (HEAL) fields.
Frankly, this makes no sense whatsoever because there’s nothing preventing women or men from pursuing careers in these fields already. Feminists and progressive clowns refuse to accept the obvious truth that one sex’s tendency to dominate an industry is largely due to the differences in their nature.
It doesn’t take a brain surgeon to deduce that most nurses, teachers, and counselors will be women if they are inherently more nurturing and social than men.
I suspect that most people subconsciously understand that men and women aren’t equal ,but still regurgitate nonsense like this anyway because they’ve been brainwashed and conditioned to for most of their lives.
There’s a reason societies and tribes implemented universal gender roles that existed for over 200,000 years. When our ancestors lived in caves, women stayed with the children and gathered resources around their camp, while the men went and hunted wild animals because they were obviously more capable.
How many women do you think had to die before everyone realized that they should perhaps avoid hunting?
In contrast to what you might be thinking, I’m not a sexist. In fact, I’m far from it. I believe that women deserve equal rights to men, and that they should be able to work most jobs that men can, with the exception being made for any that pertain to protecting the public in any serious capacity.
Women should be allowed to work as cops but, when shit hits the fan, when there’s intruders outside of your house at 3 o’clock in the morning, you’re going to want a specific group of people to save you – and it’s not a woman.
You’re going to want traditionally masculine men who look like they’re capable of kicking ass, not some blue-haired dork who’s concerned about addressing people by their “correct” pronoun.
A common rebuttal from clowns is that, “Actually, we’d want the best person for the job.”
Okay.
Who is more capable of protecting women and their defenseless children: A woman and a scrawny guy with blue hair? Or two tall, buff, and bearded dudes who look like caricatures of alpha males?
Thus, before you can become successful with women, you have to accept and internalize that men and women are not equal. Not only that, women don’t want to be romantically involved with their equal because they invariably look to men for support and guidance during times of distress.
6.0 - Women Do Not Want An Equal
The only way a woman can sincerely desire the man she’s with is for her to perceive him as superior to her in some regard.
Women, for the most part, only date up. They prefer being with men who make more money, are more attractive, work in more esteemed fields, have higher social status, and most importantly, behave like they are better than them.
Just browse the thousands of Tiktok and YouTube videos in which women who are being interviewed overwhelmingly assert having no interest being in a long-term relationship with a man who makes less than them or works in a less respectable career when asked. According to some of the videos I've watched, many women would legitimately prefer being with a lawyer who makes $60,000 per year instead of a plumber who makes $120,000 per year because the title is ‘More sexy.’
And while women will continue to clamor that they desire an equal partnership despite their actions and the literal words coming out of their mouths suggesting otherwise, most men subconsciously know that’s not true.
Look no further than how the average guy goes about attracting women. They believe that if they get a degree, work an honest, respectable, well-paying job, and are law-abiding citizens, women will like them. They qualify themselves, often to their detriment, because they understand that these factors matter. They understand that women desire men who can provide for them financially, and they instinctively understand that women are more attracted to guys who make more money than them despite claims asserting otherwise.
Now, while women always date up in some capacity, external attributes that comprise a man’s value are only one part of the equation and are by no means indicative of a man’s overall value or social status amongst men.
Take NFL superstar Tom Brady and music icon Drake. These two men are arguably the greatest individuals to ever compete in their fields, and the women they were with still left them. They’re as famous and rich as it gets, socially savvy, and handsome – it’s virtually impossible that any woman who leaves them will date another man who’s a fraction as valuable on paper.
In spite of this, Tom’s wife left him for her Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu instructor, and half of Drake’s discography is him coping after being dumped. These men are externally better than 99.9999999% (you get the point) of the population, and their women still left them for men who weren’t as prized.
No one other than Drake knows why the he dates continually leave him, but if his lyrics are any indication of his behavior, it’s probably because he pedestalizes them, showers them with undeserved gifts, and most importantly, behaves in ways that make them feel better than him.
As such, while women do want to be in long-term relationships with men who are more externally valuable than themselves, they actually desire men who behave like they are better than them.
And this is precisely why women will enthusiastically date men who are broke, jobless, play video games all day, and have no prospective future: They’re literally able to obtain their commitment without having to do a damn thing.
That’s the epitome of superiority.
We’ll evaluate these specific behaviors in another essay, but for now, just know that indifference is attractive.
7.0 - Women Like Guys Other Women Like
When women are pursued by, or go out with, men they barely know, they proceed with more caution than normal because they are primarily concerned with their safety. This is most observable in their tendency to indirectly reject men they don’t want to date, and to stalk the social media accounts of men they are going on a first date with but don’t know particularly well. There’s no shortage of men who throw temper tantrums after getting rejected, or weirdos who are able to temporarily posture as being normal.
One of the most relieving and arousing things for women is observing that the guy they are interested in is liked by other women because it suggests that a) they aren’t creeps, and b) they’re valuable in some regard.
Despite delusional feminist and progressive women espousing nonsense like, “Men and women are equal!” they’re aware that they’re effectively defenseless if a man decides to physically harm them.
As such, women instinctively find men who are surrounded by other women more attractive because it implies that they’re safe and not creeps. Women understand that other women aren’t going to voluntarily hangout with weird guys as it’s clearly against their best interest.
Additionally, women desire men that other women like because it suggests that they’re valuable in some regard, and the more attractive the woman they’re with is, the more this belief magnifies.
Imagine walking into a bar and seeing dudes who look like Bill Cosby and Harvey Weinstein with swimsuit supermodels. Everyone’s going to wonder how men who look like them attracted such beautiful women, and assume they possess some invisible and exceptional qualities.
If a woman ever alludes to you being a player, or suggests that you must be desired by other women, never confirm otherwise; the only thing women find more revolting than a creep is a guy they like who no other woman does.
I’m not telling you to lie, but you absolutely shouldn’t be honest to a fault in this circumstance. If a woman finds out that the guy she likes isn’t liked by other women, she’ll begin questioning what’s wrong with you, and more concerningly, wonder what’s wrong with her for liking someone no other woman does.
A simple smile and shrug works wonders.
8.0 - Women Care About How Men Make Them FEEL
Women are notoriously emotional; they’re more concerned with feelings than logic, and this is observable in almost every facet of their lives.
It’s also why, depending on the stage of life they’re in, they opt to date the bad boy who doesn’t have a dollar to his name instead of the boring nice guy who has his life in order. The bad boy is able to stimulate a woman’s emotions (for better or worse) in a way the good-hearted but mind-numbingly boring nice guy could never hold a candle to.
One of the biggest mistakes men make when they finally summon the courage to approach their crush is having a boring and logical conversation with them. In my experience, and through my observation of others who have behaved similarly, the only time boring small talk will land you a date is if a) the woman is highly attracted to you i.e., you’re her type to a T, or b) your behavior during the conversation turned her on.
While stepping outside of your comfort zone and subjecting yourself to rejection is commendable, I recommend not escalating the conversation (asking her out) if you suspect that you haven’t sufficiently impacted her emotions. Even if you exchange numbers and she agrees to go out with you, the likelihood of her flaking is incredibly high; if the conversation was lame and boring, she’s probably going to think that any future interaction with you is going to go similarly.
That said, if you have a fear of rejection, it’s beneficial to endure it so you can better internalize that it’s ultimately not a big deal; you’ll just find that women likely won’t show up to any date you propose.
We’ll discuss how to stimulate a woman’s emotions and not be boring with them in other essays, but for now, just know that saying something batshit crazy will land you more dates than any mundane conversation will.
9.0 - You’re Good Enough
If a woman has agreed to go on a date with you, she perceives you to be better than her in some capacity. As such, never qualify yourself. Doing so indirectly conveys that you’re not good enough, and that you have to sell yourself to her for her to you, which is confusing to them because they already believe that you are good enough.
Self qualification makes women believe that you’re not actually as valuable as they suspected, because someone who’s superior to others shouldn’t feel the need to overtly express such. A king would never walk around gloating that he’s better than everyone else because it’s just understood.
If you’re on a date with a woman, she already thinks you’re good enough – you don’t need to win her over. Instead, flip the script and make her win you over.
10.0 - You’re The Prize
If women only date men they perceive to be better than them, it would make sense to conclude that they have to be the ones winning the man over. This doesn’t mean you walk around like an arrogant and pompous asshole with your chest sticking out all of the time, but it does mean that you should always behave like you’re better than her. And the first step to doing so is by never qualifying yourself to women.
11.0 - Women Don’t Care About You
As briefly discussed earlier, women care more about how you make them feel than facts about you.
I’ve gone out on numerous dates with women, and oftentimes none of them know anything about me other than very surface level information until multiple dates in, likely because I was able to stimulate their emotions early on and never engaged in boring and logical conversation.
Most men commonly subscribe to the idea that they need to build comfort and rapport with the women before they ask them out or have sex, and that’s just not true.
I provide no information about myself in my dating app bios other than my age and political affiliation, and women still agree to go out with me within 2-3 messages. Moreover, I’ve cold approached women, exchanged no personal information other than names and phone numbers, and still have taken them out on dates because a) they were presumably very attracted to me, and b) I wasn’t boring during the conversation.
So, never disclose information about yourself in an attempt to make the girl more comfortable with you – it’s not going to work.
Do the guys that women sleep with after meeting them that night build comfort and rapport with them? Some, but not nearly as much as a nice guy believes is necessary.
Did the guy that the woman slept with in the bathroom bar after knowing him for 30 minutes build comfort and rapport with him? No.
Keep this in mind the next time you’re talking to a girl you like.
12.0 - Less Is Always More
Women want information about the man they’re dating to be revealed over time. I’ve heard some dating coaches say that women want to feel like they’re in a romance novel, and that they’re discovering information about him out little by little each time they’re together, and that aligns with what I’ve observed.
This is primarily because women want to feel as though they’re figuring the man they’re dating out. Most men don’t realize this, and they disclose far too much information about themselves to the woman they’re seeing too soon, leaving nothing left for them to discover. When a woman feels like she has you figured out, or thinks she knows enough about you too soon, she’ll almost certainly become bored and move on to the next challenge.
I once told a date that I was formerly a bouncer at a bar on my alma mater's campus, and to my surprise, she didn’t seem like she gave a single fuck. A few months later, a girl I was dating and a group of friends were hanging out at a bar, and one of them randomly told everyone a story about a fight I got into when I was a bouncer.
My date’s eyes lit up like she was in complete disbelief after hearing this, and she frantically began asking me if I actually worked as a bouncer.
She responded this way because we had been seeing each other for three weeks at the time, and the only things she effectively knew about me was my age, address, and occupation.
When information about you is discovered, it makes a woman wonder what else there is to know about you. They then start using their imagination, which is one of the greatest tools in your toolbox (more on this later), and want to figure you out further.
13.0 - Women Love Mysterious Men
Most men understand that women want a man who is mysterious, as it is a narrative commonly espoused in various forms of media. Unfortunately, most are completely and utterly clueless on what being mysterious actually means.
Luckily, you don’t have to be like Bruce Wayne in The Batman, or the quiet kid in class who sits in the corner and never speaks.
Mystery consists of two components: Never directly revealing information about yourself, and having contradictions in who women perceive you to be being gradually exposed over time
One of the biggest concerns guys have when I tell them to never directly reveal information about themselves is not knowing what to talk about, and luckily, the answer is anything.
This requires you to develop the social and conversational skills to talk about anything at random, as long as it stimulates their emotions and is not too boring and logical.
When you’re on a date, women typically don’t care about the exchanging of facts like they care about how you make them feel, which is why feelings like laughter are so important to them. It’s the emotional impact being made, not necessarily the joke itself. So, enhance your social skills so you can tell captivating stories, and jokes on a whim.
Another option is to let the woman you’re with do the majority of the talking. Everyone loves to talk about themselves, but women do more so than men because of their nature. This is probably your best bet if you don’t have the best social skills, or are in the process of improving them.
When a woman is talking about herself, be present. This way you can ask engaging questions that demonstrate you are actually listening. You never have to think about what questions to ask if you are actually engaged and curious about what she is saying.
For example, if a woman tells you she has ten siblings, there’s plenty of follow up questions you can ask in a way that is playful and fun:
Do you think parents have favorites?
Isn't it interesting how parents say they don’t have favorites but they clearly do?
Which sibling is your favorite? (ask why after she answers).
Did some of y'all ever get together and gossip about the others when they weren’t around?
Did all of you get along?
Do you have any privacy growing up?
If you had no privacy how did you…. y’know..?
These are questions I generated in my head instantaneously without thought.
Most of you will have a difficult time comprehending how a woman could enjoy answering questions like these, and it’s because they’re not boring and predictable. With these questions, emphasis is placed on emotions rather than the exchanging of facts.
Again, women are visceral. They prioritize feelings as opposed to information provided to them when speaking to men they like.. Information about you is important, but it’s not what matters at first.
If you struggle with generating questions like these off the tip of your tongue, start by practicing with everyone you speak with.
Practice being present in the moment by surrendering all of your attention to the person speaking, listening very closely, and ask follow up questions that you wouldn’t normally ask (like those provided above). After some practice, you’ll eventually be able to ask questions that aren’t boring and predictable naturally.