For All The Virgins

She's going to be disappointed, but that's not your problem.

A virgin on the brink of having sex is concerned about his first time.

Hey you all. I’ve hit it off with this girl and have one question for you all. how exactly should i (as a virgin male) approach this situation? I am sure the optimal approach would be not to address it and just go with the flow but if i do something that makes it obvious i’m inexperienced would that be a major turn off for most women? Does anyone who’s been in the same situation have any advice?

And to no one's surprise, clueless Redditors assured him they knew what to do.

Moron # 1

Just be honest bro. A lot of females treat taking a man’s v card as a trophy just as men do the same to females.

I’ve told all the girls I’ve been with that I’m inexperienced and non of them have ever been turned off. most are just like ok that’s cool.

Lying to her will turn her off far more than just saying you’re inexperienced.

Moron # 2

Ya, don’t lie about being a virgin, they will be way more upset when they find out. A lesson I learned the hard way

Reading this thread really makes me miss the good ole days when I would respond to questions on r/seduction; it’s a shame I was permanently banned.

Most Dating Advice on The Internet Is Terrible

While both responders had good intentions, they’re ultimately brainwashed morons who shouldn’t be providing advice.

If moron #1 has told every girl he’s been with that he’s inexperienced, then he clearly hasn’t been with many women and shouldn’t be giving advice. After all, he all but admitted he was so bad at laying pipe that they didn’t return for seconds. He then confidently claimed that the women weren’t turned off, but he’s not telepathic: He has no idea what they were thinking. As far as anyone’s concerned, they were bewildered but slept with him anyway for a myriad of reasons.

Moreover, it’s entirely possible that the women revealed microexpressions that conveyed him being inexperienced was a big deal, but I’m dubious that a Redditor as clueless as this one would be capable of noticing them, especially during a moment as nerve-wracking as revealing your sexual ineptitude to a woman you’re about to have sex with.

My bet is that this guy was sleeping with very fat chicks who were so horny that they were able to momentarily ignore whatever profound feelings they had in the moment, because there’s ZERO chance – quite possibly a negative chance – that any conventionally attractive woman would sleep with a guy after discovering that he was a virgin.

Big girls need love, too.

As for Moron #2, he doesn't realize that the woman who took his virginity wasn’t upset with him for disclosing it after the fact, but mad at herself for sleeping with a guy that no other woman on the entire planet wanted.

Be very selective about advice you follow on the internet.

Never Disclose Your Sexual Ineptitude

The original poster’s (OP) intuition is correct. Never – under any circumstances, ever – tell a woman, especially one you’re about to have sex with, that you’re a virgin; doing so virtually guarantees that you will remain one.

Women like men that other women want. Of course, they would never admit this because it’s unflattering and makes them look shallow, but it’s the truth. If you tell the woman you’re about to sleep with that you’re a virgin, she’ll think a) that no other women want you, b) something’s wrong with you, and most importantly, c) something’s wrong with her for liking a guy that no other woman apparently ever has. None of the aforementioned may have an ounce of truth to it, but it’s what most women would think, and they generally only care about how a situation makes them feel.

Now, while both commenters are clueless, they did leave one piece of valuable advice: don’t lie. Lying in all forms is abhorrent and should be rejected and detested. That said, you shouldn’t always be honest to a fault; as it turns out, the only way to gain sexual experience is by having sex.

Technically I didn’t lie.

Let’s just think for a second. What would prompt a woman, especially one who’s sexually experienced (she’s been with way more dudes than you’re imagining, by the way), to ask the guy she’s about to sleep with if he’s a virgin? It’s utter nonsense. When women genuinely like a guy, they assume that almost every other woman on the planet does too – it’s unfathomable and perplexing. She’s not going to ask if he’s a virgin because she’s assuming that he's experienced because she thinks that other women like you at least as much as she does.

Don’t shoot yourself in the foot before the race starts.

In the unlikely event that a woman does ask if you’re a virgin or inquire about your experience before the act, say anything but the truth. Plead the fifth, say you’re the most sexually inexperienced man to ever walk the earth in an obviously sarcastic tone, flip the script and ask if she’s a virgin - don’t lie – but don’t technically tell the truth.

OP should stop overthinking , trust his judgement, and go with the flow. It’s his first time, so unless he’s a prodigy it’s most likely going to be awkward. He’s going to scratch his head searching for the right hole, clumsily switch positions, and penetrate with a rhythm worse than a man in a wheelchair. She’s going to be disappointed, but she won’t make a big deal about it if he doesn’t; and even if she does, he will have already smashed at that point so it doesn’t matter.

Even if the sex is terrible, it’s likely that he’ll have more opportunities to practice with her as long as he pounds with confidence and doesn’t become needy and/or attached afterwards. But given his overthinking, I doubt that’s going to happen.

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